Monday, September 28, 2015
Last night there was a rare confluence of a lunar eclipse and a "supermoon." By 7 p.m., the time the moon would rise per the newspaper, I'd handed the kids off to their dad. They were planning to find a good viewing spot and take binoculars -- like everyone else in town, scheduling their night around the moon.
At 6:45, loading the dishwasher, I thought: "What am I doing?"
I called Dave and suggested we go see the moon, right now.
Ten minutes later, heading out of town with a bottle of wine and glasses in the car, I felt a pang of sadness that I wouldn't see my kids see the moon.
Ever since their dad and I split up, we've been loosey-goosey about birthdays, holidays, significant events of all kinds, so that I've never had to miss one because it wasn't "my day." During the last big moon a year ago, I drove them out to a field and let them run around screaming -- literally, like lunatics -- until their dad pulled up next to my car and we watched them a while before sending them off, still in a festive spirit, to House #2.
Still, you can't share custody for every celestial anomaly that makes the papers. Getting divorced means your young kids will sometimes see the sky without you.
(The previous night at my house, we'd had our own little event. Because my kids sleep in their underwear like savages, I noticed as my son climbed into bed that his underpants had holes in them.
"When you take those off tomorrow, you can just throw them out," I told him.
But the situation (underpants! holes!) struck my son as hilarious. He began ripping the small holes into larger, connecting holes, uttering words lost in a giggle.
"What?" I said.
"All for one and one for all!" he shrieked, tearing a giant, butt-sized hole in his underpants.
"Okay, just . . . take them off," I said. "They're not even . . ." The shredded remains were no longer serving any purpose. "Just throw them out."
"No! I want them!" my daughter screamed, starting a fight over the tatters clinging to his form.
When he started ripping up the front, I had to shut it down, for real.
So, like other people have Paris, the kids and I will always have that version of the 2015 Supermoon.)
Dave and I watched the moon come up over a field, happy as could be. Then we went out for pizza.